Top 5 things Men hate when dating! A MUST READ LADIES

By : The Fab & Fierce Mariah HuQ

Hey Ladies I Know I'm no Love expert nor do I have a degree in psychology, but after conversing with a few of my single friends I felt the need to reinerate a few dating don'ts to help the single sista's out. To be honest this list is one that we have to constantly remember as wives too. LOL Now I know there are many things we cannot control while dating like his enviroment (i.e. his single boys, or jumpoffs)

{jumpoff- a woman used only for sex or sexual favors} but we are only going to address the issues we can control. Please don't hesitate to comment and add anything you think should've been included since I am only focusing on the Top 5.

5.Gossiping- Ok Ladies we all may be guilty of this at least at one time or another. We all like to call our girls and talk about how NE-NE acted a fool on the last episode of housewives of Atlanta, who bit who on True Blood,  or how our boss has worked our last nerve on that dam job. The truth is,  it can wait.

Men hate when you talk too much, and remember they throw up all the stuff you say to others back in your face. So, watch what you say infront of him. I know most of us probably wouldn't do this the 1st or second date, but even if it's the 5th or 6th it's good to just turn the phone off and give him your un-divided attention while he is there.

4.self absorbed or Selfish- Any relationship you have in life should be a two-way street. Don't make it a one-way road just by focusing on your self. Let him know that you care and are willing to share. Be sure to always listen to him and be engaged. People like to know that you care about there interest, concerns and aspirations. It will be hard BUT just shut-up and listen sometimes. Share their world, show interest in their life and get involved if they ask you to. Let them know that your realize the world doesn't revolve around you.  Make sure you show interest, but just the right amount, too much interest can be boarderline stalking or obsession. lol

3 Nagging/Complaing- Ok ALL Men single, married or divorced hate this. The funny thing is we don't see it as nagging. lol Usually, we are just offering advice, or giving insight. Don't do it! Well it's ok sometimes, but try not to often. Focus on the positive things and always make light of the great things he has done, or can do. I know this one is very hard b/c I'm the first to tell someone what they did wrong towards me, but I am quickly learning to pick and choose my battles wisely.

2. Too easy- Now I know this is the oldest rule in the dating rule book, but unfortantely I need to remind some of you that SEX does change things.( I really wanted this to be the #1 thing, but I asked 3 men their opinion and all three placed this 2nd) Women are emotional beings and we love to be expressive and sensual, but sex is different for a man. I repeat Sex is different for a man. People like to be challenged, anything worth having is worth working for. So with that being said,  make him put in some time and effort before you start giving away benefits.  Just like a job he is still going through the new hire process and the probationary period is not over. If you do cross the line don't beat your self up or even make a huge issue out of it. The worst thing you can do is  call and ask him stuff like "what happens now" or "what does this mean for us". It means you gave it up and he probably really enjoyed it. Many will disagree with this, but I say if you did cross the line let it go. Don't mention it. Act like it never happened PERIOD. The silence about it will kill his ego more than yours TRUST ME. He will think you were probably unsatisfied or that he was lacking and try his best to make up for his "short" falls. lol So let it go and just be sure you are ready to deal with the drama that sex brings into a relationship when you take it to that level.

1. To clingy-- Is this a big one or what?? Ok the worst thing is to get attached too soon. Yes you should give your man alot of attention, especially while he is in your presence, like I said before, but make sure you still have a life.. What I mean is don't let him be your top priority and you are merely his "option".

Continue to spend time doing the things you enjoy, with your friends & family and even dating if you guys aren't exclusive. The time away makes the heart grow fonder and he needs to see that if he won't "put a ring on it" there is another man in line that will. More than likely he was attracted to you for your greatness, so be sure to keep those things going not for thim, but for you. Cling to God, he is the only person that won't disappoint you, and the one who truly holds your heart in his hands. So be sure to prioritize your life, and fit the guy into it while remembering it is still YOUR life, and when you get the last name, you can then drop the "y" and say "OUR" life!

Hope this helps ladies, Stay FAB!