It's Tiger's Wife's Fault he Cheated?

So, according to word on the street, Tiger is up to mistress number 9!! I mean they have only been married a little over 5 years. That’s a whole lot of cheating if you ask me.

I don’t agree with all the mess in the media saying Elin is at fault for all of Tiger’s cheating. However, I do say she did have a hand in the situation and is not blameless. As a wife I can say you know when something is wrong in your relationship, and whether you address it or turn the other cheek, can determine the outcome.

Communicate Kids

In a relationship things can get stale. Its hard to maintain the desire and flame you once felt for a person. I mean we are human. The thing I blame both parties for is an apparent lack of communication.

Tiger knew he wasn’t getting whatever it was he needed sexually and probably emotionally from his wife. I mean no one has a mistress for extended periods of time without forming some emotional connection. The problem is that he probably never spoke up to his wife to let her know what he felt was missing. No, he didn’t have to be mean or harsh about it but there are artful ways to suggest things to your partner. I am not sure that this occurred here.

Elin is also at fault because we women can feel a difference when we don’t have all of our partner anymore. Either she turned a blind eye or she never tried to talk to her partner to find the root of the problem.

Truth Hurts

The truth hurts but sometimes we need to face it. Deep down we are all a little freaky, ( I think the media has influence or requires us to be so- another post for another day) and yes we are all emotional and need that human connection. To me 9 women screams a lack of communication or a lack of fire felt in the marriage. Ignoring the problem, as you can see, only made it worse.

Sex is Just Sex?

Some men are screaming that sex is sext, and Tiger was just getting his rocks off. I don’t agree, he formed an emotional connection with these women and was dating them in spans of over a year. To me, he had little quasi-relationships with all of these women. So, sex can’t just really be sex. There is an underlying feeling Tiger wanted to achieve and sought it out in other women.

Maybe Tiger shouldn’t have married her in the first place.

Do you feel Elin is at fault for Tiger’s cheating?

If somoene is cheating is it because they are missing something in their relationship?

Is Sex, Just Sex?

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Comments: 3

#1
Tiffany Gray (Friday, 12 February 2010 18:45)

Mariah I totally agree with you, in a marriage the two parties are one,therefore when something is wrong it is for both people to address. One person can't make a realtionship work it takes two, and both have to be willing to give that extra 110 percent it takes for things to go well.
#2
Susan Yeller (Saturday, 13 February 2010 12:50)

Ok Maria I disagree. He cheated and its his fault. Society always want to transfer the blame to the woman but that is not right! She didnt make him cheat he is an adult and cheated because he wanted too.
#3
April (Sunday, 14 February 2010 15:45)

I have to say that this was an interesting read! In marriage, there isn't an easy answer........ Was Tiger at fault, yes! Was Elin at fault, yes. I think it is hard to determine the who, what and why but they both had a part in the final outcome.
Maybe I place the initial blame on his father. Tiger was thrust into fame at 3. Never really had a normal childhood and looked to his father for a role model (anybody remember the displays of affection when he won and his father was right there at his side?)........ it is a long standing "known" that his father was a cheater- Hence the need for solid parental role models (of which his father clearly did not provide in the area of marriage- but rather in WINNING) So you start life understanding THAT as "love."
Marriage is a two way street and communication failure is the fault of both parties. He needed something (and maybe didn't know how to ask for what he needed) She MAY have never known him in a way to ask. Maybe she let the kids/fame/money/travel (who knows what) run the marriage and thought "this is what I signed up for".... thus not knowing HOW to communicate with him.
So, the bottom line is, we don't know WHO is to blame...... I blame them both!