If you’ve seen “The September Issue,” you know that month is serious business in the magazine industry.

So when Vogue – the publication chronicled in “September Issue” – asked Halle Berry to be on the cover, there was no way she could say no, even though she’d sworn off speaking up in interviews.

“I was burned-out with having other people tell the story about me that they wanted to tell,” Berry, 43, told the magazine. “I told my publicist, ‘I’m not going to talk anymore. I’m just going to live my life and be who I am.’”

But then, Vogue called. “What that means for a woman of color and what that means in the fashion world, what that means to pop culture, there was no way I could say, ‘No I’m not going to be on the biggest issue of the year,’” Berry explained of landing the cover story.

But along with the high-fashion photo shoot came the opportunity to set the record straight on her split from her boyfriend for close to five years – and father of her 2-year-old daughter Nahla – Gabriel Aubry.

“It’s just that you realize you are not meant to go the distance with everybody,” Berry said. “We were meant to bring this amazing little person into the world. And I think that’s why we came together. And because of that, we are going to be together, forever, all three of us. We are a family until we are not here anymore.”

She and Aubry are still friends, Berry said, and although it wasn’t a “love connection” for the two of them, she has no doubt he was the right man to have a baby with. And when it comes to finding love, Berry said she’s no different from the rest of us. (No, really.)

“I don’t think I’m unlike a lot of people. I am just someone who is trying to find that mate, and I think it’s a really hard thing to do,” Berry said. “I am not willing to stay somewhere where I am not really happy. And I am not willing to pretend I am for the kid’s sake or so that I don’t have to go through another public humiliation.”

In the end, the actress said, she’s starting to accept that she may not be the type of person who wants to settle down.

“It’s about accepting who we really are, not who we want to be. As much as I have always wanted to be in this committed relationship and have the picket fence and grow old with the same person, I’m coming to terms with: Maybe that’s just not who I am,” Berry added.

She’s also the type of person who’s not afraid to take a risk, which lead to her taking a role in 2004’s “Catwoman.” “The moment I won the Oscar, I felt the teardown the very next day,” Berry said of her historic Best Actress win in 2001 for “Monster’s Ball.” “I thought, ‘If I’m going down, I’m going down taking chances and daring to risk.’ Hence…'Catwoman.’”

In the beginning, she had high hopes, but Berry readily admits that the story “just wasn’t good enough.”

“But I will tell you one thing that has helped me deal with the failure of that,” Berry told Vogue. “Critics bashed it, but people come up to me now and either they say, ‘I loved you in the movie B.A.P.S.’ which is a comedy that I did, or they say, ‘I don’t care what anybody says, I liked 'Catwoman.’ Nobody ever says, ‘I really loved 'Monster’s Ball.'’”

The September issue of Vogue hits newsstands August 24.

Tracy Nicole is more that just an author, she's an activist. She penned her first novel, Who Said Peaches Were Perfect?, to help young women, er, all women, avoid the perils and pitfalls of life.

Her inspiration for the book came from a maternal place. "I have two daughters and although they're young, they're growing up in a time when there are so many challenges with young girls,” she says.

“I sit on the board at an organization, All Grown Up, where we teach young girls how to become [ladies]. I facilitate self-esteem workshops. Our teens are exposed to so much and I want them to be able to to make informed decisions," says Nicole.

A Georgia native (hence the "Peaches" in the title), Tracy Nicole is a recent divorcée who was a music industry wife. That network was one of the most positive influences in her life. "During that time, I was exposed to people who were following their dreams and I was exposed to people who were following their dreams and making things happen because they were passionate. On the flip side, I went through a divorce. I feel like if you can survive a divorce, you can survive anything. It pushed me to want to follow my dream of finishing my book and getting it published. In doing this, I felt I started a new life in becoming an author," she says.

The author hopes readers will glean three important messages from her first novel. Know your worth and never settle for less than you deserve in life, always be true to yourself and know that your past doesn't define your future.

“With my two girls, I am trying to be the woman that I want them to be," Nicole confides, "I make sure I'm setting a good example for them. It takes me a little longer to make decisions because I am constantly thinking about how my decision is going to affect them.”

Expect a second novel by this budding author in 2011

By : The Fab & Fierce Mariah HuQ

Hey Ladies I Know I'm no Love expert nor do I have a degree in psychology, but after conversing with a few of my single friends I felt the need to reinerate a few dating don'ts to help the single sista's out. To be honest this list is one that we have to constantly remember as wives too. LOL Now I know there are many things we cannot control while dating like his enviroment (i.e. his single boys, or jumpoffs)

{jumpoff- a woman used only for sex or sexual favors} but we are only going to address the issues we can control. Please don't hesitate to comment and add anything you think should've been included since I am only focusing on the Top 5.

5.Gossiping- Ok Ladies we all may be guilty of this at least at one time or another. We all like to call our girls and talk about how NE-NE acted a fool on the last episode of housewives of Atlanta, who bit who on True Blood,  or how our boss has worked our last nerve on that dam job. The truth is,  it can wait.

Men hate when you talk too much, and remember they throw up all the stuff you say to others back in your face. So, watch what you say infront of him. I know most of us probably wouldn't do this the 1st or second date, but even if it's the 5th or 6th it's good to just turn the phone off and give him your un-divided attention while he is there.

4.self absorbed or Selfish- Any relationship you have in life should be a two-way street. Don't make it a one-way road just by focusing on your self. Let him know that you care and are willing to share. Be sure to always listen to him and be engaged. People like to know that you care about there interest, concerns and aspirations. It will be hard BUT just shut-up and listen sometimes. Share their world, show interest in their life and get involved if they ask you to. Let them know that your realize the world doesn't revolve around you.  Make sure you show interest, but just the right amount, too much interest can be boarderline stalking or obsession. lol

3 Nagging/Complaing- Ok ALL Men single, married or divorced hate this. The funny thing is we don't see it as nagging. lol Usually, we are just offering advice, or giving insight. Don't do it! Well it's ok sometimes, but try not to often. Focus on the positive things and always make light of the great things he has done, or can do. I know this one is very hard b/c I'm the first to tell someone what they did wrong towards me, but I am quickly learning to pick and choose my battles wisely.

2. Too easy- Now I know this is the oldest rule in the dating rule book, but unfortantely I need to remind some of you that SEX does change things.( I really wanted this to be the #1 thing, but I asked 3 men their opinion and all three placed this 2nd) Women are emotional beings and we love to be expressive and sensual, but sex is different for a man. I repeat Sex is different for a man. People like to be challenged, anything worth having is worth working for. So with that being said,  make him put in some time and effort before you start giving away benefits.  Just like a job he is still going through the new hire process and the probationary period is not over. If you do cross the line don't beat your self up or even make a huge issue out of it. The worst thing you can do is  call and ask him stuff like "what happens now" or "what does this mean for us". It means you gave it up and he probably really enjoyed it. Many will disagree with this, but I say if you did cross the line let it go. Don't mention it. Act like it never happened PERIOD. The silence about it will kill his ego more than yours TRUST ME. He will think you were probably unsatisfied or that he was lacking and try his best to make up for his "short" falls. lol So let it go and just be sure you are ready to deal with the drama that sex brings into a relationship when you take it to that level.

1. To clingy-- Is this a big one or what?? Ok the worst thing is to get attached too soon. Yes you should give your man alot of attention, especially while he is in your presence, like I said before, but make sure you still have a life.. What I mean is don't let him be your top priority and you are merely his "option".

Continue to spend time doing the things you enjoy, with your friends & family and even dating if you guys aren't exclusive. The time away makes the heart grow fonder and he needs to see that if he won't "put a ring on it" there is another man in line that will. More than likely he was attracted to you for your greatness, so be sure to keep those things going not for thim, but for you. Cling to God, he is the only person that won't disappoint you, and the one who truly holds your heart in his hands. So be sure to prioritize your life, and fit the guy into it while remembering it is still YOUR life, and when you get the last name, you can then drop the "y" and say "OUR" life!

Hope this helps ladies, Stay FAB! 

How far would you go to save a buck in today's tumultuous economy? People are finding more ways than ever before to scrimp and save. But some take it to extremes. Read on as expert penny pinchers detail six bold ways to cut costs -- and in some cases, generate a little revenue -- during tough economic times. Are you extreme enough to give them a try?

Get Rid of Your Car

Trading in your beloved wheels for public transportation is definitely extreme -- especially if you live in the suburbs. However, doing so saves a bundle.

"If you can walk, bike, or take public transit where you need to go, get rid of your car entirely," says Francine Jay, author of "Frugillionaire: 500 Fabulous Ways to Live Richly and Save a Fortune."

Take In a Renter or Boarder

Sharing your living space may seem unappealing at first, but it's a great source of extra income."I always encourage people to at least consider getting a home that could allow them to get some rental income, such as a duplex," Yeager says.Again, Yeager speaks from experience. He and his wife have had renters for the past 20 years. By doing so, they were able to pay off their house in 15 years instead of 30.

Downsize Your Home

If you feel as though your home is too big, it probably is. Selling it and buying a smaller one may help beef up your bank account.

"The best way to save big money is to cut big expenses -- and housing is the biggest of them all," Jay says. Jay says trading down to a smaller house or apartment also lowers the mortgage or rent, as well as the utility bills.

Change How You Use Credit Card

Taking a pair of sharp scissors to credit cards can help plug a big hole in your wallet or purse. Jay advocates paying with cash only.

"This strategy saves you a bundle in finance charges and puts the brakes on your shopping habit; because without credit, you can't spend more than the money you have,"  Jay says paying with plastic "is far too painless," making it easier to spend.

Only Use Coupons or Go Generic

Some extreme savers take coupon clipping to a new level, purchasing items only when they have coupons and stockpiling goods for future use.

Jay says the secret to saving on groceries and other items is to "ditch the brand loyalty, and be open to alternative products or generics."

"Be adventurous and try out that bargain-priced shampoo, cereal or detergent," says Jay. "If you're shopping online, search Google for coupons before making your purchase; you'll be surprised how often you'll find vouchers for free shipping and other discounts."

Dump High-Tech Toys

Many extreme savers embrace the simple life, which means either forgoing the latest toys and services or waiting until they're no longer "hot ticket" items. In addition to saving cash, Jay says "you may find happiness in being less connected to the virtual world and more engaged in the real one." Erin Schneider, who writes the Cheap Chick blog, also recommends cutting out unnecessary services -- "cut down on cell minutes, cancel your home phone, cancel your gym membership" -- and opting for the least expensive options that present themselves.

The tough-guy rapper, who just premiered his new film Twelve last week, recently registered as a bone marrow donor in an effort to help a young actress diagnosed with leukemia. When 50 Cent heard that 11-year-old Shannon Tavarez needed a bone marrow transplant, he and G-Unit member Tony Yayo registered with DKMS and were added to the Be The Match Registry.

Before she was diagnosed with acute myelogenous leukemia, Tavarez had a co-starring role as young Nala in the Broadway production of The Lion King.

Tavarez's story made 50 Cent think about his own child. "My son is just a couple years older than Shannon and I can't imagine if his life was needlessly cut short when there is someone out there that could save him," the rap star said in a statement.

"Shannon's chances of finding a matching donor are slim because she's African American and Dominican and minorities are underrepresented in the national registry," he added. "Everyone, regardless of their race or ethnicity deserves a fair chance at life. Registering to become a bone marrow donor starts with a cheek swab but it's more than that. It's a commitment to save a life."

DKMS is the largest bone-marrow donor center in the world, with more than 2 million registered donors. To sign up as a bone marrow donor visit GetSwabbed.org. Registrants have to be 18 to 55 years old and in good health.

The head of a Pennsylvania amusement company has yanked a carnival game in which players shot foam darts at an image resembling President Barack Obama.Irvin Good Jr. pulled the target-shooting game after receiving a complaint from a patron attending a fair in Roseto, about 65 miles (105 kilometres) north of Philadelphia. Good said Wednesday his Goodtime Amusements company won't offer the game again.

The game featured a large painted image of a black man wearing a belt buckle with the presidential seal and holding a scroll labeled "Health Bill." Players could win prizes by hitting targets on the image's head and heart.

Good calls the game a "big mistake in judgment." He says he voted for Obama and the game wasn't meant to encourage violence against him

The opponents of the so-called Ground Zero Mosque tried to get New York City to use its landmark preservation powers to prevent the project from getting off the ground. But precisely the same groups — including the Anti-Defamation League (ADL) and the American Center for Law and Justice (ACLJ) —  have a history of arguing in court that local governments can't use laws like that to prevent houses of worship from being built. The ADL still acknowledges that the builders of the facility have the right to construct — but ADL leaders are essentially endorsing the positions of the local officials they've fought in the past by questioning the Muslim group's choice of a venue close to the site of the September 11 terror attacks.

New York City's Landmark Preservation Commission ruled Tuesday that the building at the site of the planned community center and mosque is not a historical landmark, and that its demolition can go forward. A coalition of groups who oppose the construction of the religious center had requested the landmark classification because they say its proximity to the site of the 9/11 attacks is offensive. The center is called Cordoba House; its sponsoring body, the Cordoba Institute, says it opposes radical Islamic groups and that it hopes the space will create interfaith community and understanding.

Oddly, many of the groups leading and supporting the campaign against the so-called mosque have a history of arguing in favor of religious freedom on similar cases.

The American Center for Law and Justice, the legal advocacy group leading the charge, has argued repeatedly and forcefully in federal court on at least three occasions that local land-use laws such as historical landmark designations don't trump the religious and property rights of religious groups to build houses of worship. So has the Anti-Defamation League, which controversially came out in opposition to the mosque last week. The group has filed no less than five amicus briefs in federal court arguing that local governments can't use zoning laws to prevent the building of churches and synagogues.

Indeed, these groups all compose part of a large ecosystem of religious-rights organizations; members of such groups have made frequent use of a federal law that erects significant barriers for local governments seeking to interfere with religious buildings. With few exceptions, in the case of Cordoba House, these groups have either been silent or directly contradicted their own history of statements and action.

Congress passed the Religious Land Use and Institutionalized Persons Act (RLUIPA) in 2000 at the urging of religious-rights groups. The law creates strong protections for churches and other houses of worship from local governments using zoning and other land-use laws to restrict them, essentially saying that if local municipalities interfere with religious institutions, they'd better have a very good reason for doing it.

The American Center for Law and Justice

The ACLJ has made abundant use of RLUIPA to argue that local governments can't prevent houses of worship from being built wherever and whenever the worshipers like. In 2000, the ACLJ sued Elizabeth City, N.C., under RLUIPA for what its leader called "the city's discriminatory actions in refusing to grant [church and rehab center] Teen Challenge zoning approval to operate its ministry." The group's website says it "remains committed to the principle that the use of zoning laws to curtail the religious freedoms of churches is unconstitutional."

The group's shift on Cordoba House indicates it may not believe the same rights should be afforded to mosques as "churches." ACLJ wrote a letter to the New York City Planning Commission [pdf] urging it to confer landmark status on the building and Wednesday, after the Planning Commission unanimously voted not to interfere with the construction of the mosque, ACLJ vowed to pursue the matter in state court, and today filed suit seeking to stop construction of Cordoba House.

The Anti Defamation League

The Anti-Defamation League's opposition to Cordoba House similarly contradicts the group's past work. The group came out last week in opposition to the religious center's location, saying it believed that the Cordoba House flap would be best resolved "if an alternative location could be found." However, in each of the five federal cases in which the ADL filed amicus briefs in RLUIPA cases on behalf of religious buildings, the religious group faced a city making that same argument. And in each of those cases, the ADL argued that the city had no right to use zoning laws to interfere with houses of worship.

In a brief filed by the ADL in 2004 in support of ACLJ's lawsuit in New Milford, attorney Mitchell Karlan put the RLUIPA in context by citing "overwhelming evidence that local governments, through their power to regulate land use, were discriminating against both mainstream and non-mainstream religions." Karlan argued that "municipalities, cities, and towns have demonstrated a consistent hostility towards the free exercise of religion with respect to land use."

The ADL's position on the rights of Cordoba House is less clear. In a statement, ADL leaders said simply that their counterparts at the Cordoba Institute "may have every right" to build where they please, but shouldn't.

The ADL did not respond to a request for comment. But Mitchell Karlan, though cautioning that he's not authorized to speak for the organization, defended the ADL's position.

"Any time a government takes an official action for the purpose of interfering with the free exercise of religion," he told The Upshot, "that's problematic. But the issue at ground zero is more about the religious community being politically sensitive to the needs of its neighbors."

Asked to explain the difference between the ADL's position in the New Milford case, in which the group defended a man's right to hold religious ceremonies in his home over the objections of his neighbors, and the Cordoba House, Karlan said, "It's not helpful to think about 9/11 as analogous to more mundane issues like, is a church going to create traffic problems? September 11 was the greatest domestic attack in U.S. history, and for better or for worse, those who led the attack claimed to have religious reasons for doing so."

Silent organizations

Although New York City's Landmark Preservation Commission decided not to block the construction of Cordoba House, the campaign to stop its construction by the ACLJ, with rhetorical support from the ADL and conservative politicians like Newt Gingrich and Sarah Palin, continues. Not all the advocates who normally fight on behalf of religious organizations are contradicting themselves as the ACLJ and the ADL are; many, instead, have simply stayed silent.

The Becket Fund, which describes itself as a "public interest law firm protecting the free expression of all religious traditions," has been notably silent considering how outspoken it has been in the past. In addition to helping the Third Church of Christ, Scientist in Washington, D.C., sue the city using RLUIPA in 2008, the fund represented a New Jersey mosque in 2006 in a RLIUPA case claiming that the city of Wayne, N.J., was "improperly and arbitrarily delaying the mosque's land development application" due to "community anti-Moslem hostility." The group is normally not shy about wading into public debates, and recently caused a minor furor by reading nefarious intent into President Obama's use of the phrase  "freedom of worship" instead of "freedom of religion." Its silence may be related to its conservative political backers. For instance, Newt Gingrich, who has loudly opposed Cordoba House, served as honorary vice chair of one of its annual black-tie dinners.

The Alliance Defense Fund, another conservative religious-rights group that has made frequent use of RLUIPA cases, has also stayed out of the debate. "We've been asked by a few outlets," a spokesperson told The Upshot. "We're not commenting."

The Upshot spoke with just one person within this ecosystem of religious-rights organizations who was neither silent nor contradicting past actions: Matthew Staver, the founder and chairman of Liberty Counsel, a religious-rights law firm associated with Jerry Falwell's Liberty University.

"The Constitution cuts both ways," Staver said. "I think you have to be principled from a legal perspective, because the First Amendment is a double-edged sword."

Talk radio host Dr. Laura Schlessinger has issued an apology for saying the N-word several times in an on-air conversation with a caller that she said was "hypersensitive" to racism.

Schlessinger said on her website Wednesday that she was wrong in using the word for what she called an attempt to make a philosophical point. "I articulated the N-word all the way out — more than one time," Schlessinger said in comments from the opening of her radio show that she posted on her site. "And that was wrong. I'll say it again — that was wrong." She said she "realized I had made a horrible mistake, and was so upset, I could not finish the show." Schlessinger said she pulled herself off the air at the end of the hour.

During the exchange on Tuesday's show, Schlessinger said the woman who called herself Jade was too sensitive for complaining that her husband's friends made racist comments about her in their home. When the woman asked if the N-word was offensive, Dr. Laura said "black guys say it all the time," then went on to repeat it several times.

Schlessinger did not direct the epithet at the woman, but said she used it to suggest how often she hears it, and that it should not automatically be cause for offense.  When the caller objected, Schlessinger replied: "Oh, then I guess you don't watch HBO or listen to any black comedians."

Schlessinger also said that if the caller did not have a sense of humor about race, she shouldn't have entered into an interracial marriage

After saying the N**** Word about 11 times and many other degrading things, "Don't Marry outside your race if your that sensitive" Are the astonishing words that  radio host DR. Laura Schlessinger uttered "On-Air" to a black caller who called in for advice about her interracial marriage. The woman who called herself Jade explained to Dr Laura that she was a black female married to a white man and she was somewhat hurt by her husbands lack of effort to straighten their friends and neighbors when they made subliminal race comments, and jokes.  

Although the internet and social blogs went into overdrive after Media Matters posted the audio and story behind Dr Laura's use of the N**** word it was shocked that her comments on Marrying outside of your race received such a easy pass. I found those comments just as "racists" as the use of the N**** word. 

After listening to the entire audio commentary I realized that Dr. Laura just like many others in our country or very very confused. The entire time the caller was soliciting advice from Dr Laura, the radio host  tried to convince her that she was being "ultra sensitive"  and that it was her and not the racially demeaning remarks that was the problem.  My question to Dr Laura and to others who share her point of view is "what is your definition of racism?" It is quite obvious that this woman should be not giving advice to anyone Black-White or Brown. Her views are biased, lack credibility and are quite  "Un-AMERICAN" if you ask me. 

One thing Dr Laura did do a good job at is twisting issues on race. Saying that blacks only voted for Obama b/c he was black. Also referencing the reality that black entertainers and comedians use the N**** word, so it should be no big deal if others use it. Well, I beg to differ, the point is you can only control your thoughts and actions. If others choose to be ignorant then allow them. They probably don't know any better, but a woman who has millions of listeners, a savy education, exposure to the world and calls herself DR should. Ignorance is a contagious disease and I sincerely hope that we all take our ANTI-HATE antibiotic so this divisive flu will not continue to spread, because it is a very UNFABULOUS EPIDEMIC!

Oh I almost forgot to mention that Dr. Laura did issue an immediate apology for saying the N-word "ON-AIR". 

Childhood obesity rates in America have tripled since 1980: today, 20 percent of children between the ages of 6 and 19 are obese. What's more, a disturbing 70 percent of overweight adolescents end up that way as adults. And since obesity increases your odds of heart attack, stroke, and early death, consider the impact of an entire generation of overweight children on our country's health care system—and our families.

It's a chilling thought. But here's the thing: restaurant food every now and then is perfectly fine. Just be sure to  check the nutrition information and recommendations that Eat This, Not That! provides on all of America's popular fast-food and sit-down restaurants. This way you can choose the smart options--and stay away from the worst restaurant kids meals--while eating favorites foods and losing weight. Below are  five of the unhealthiest kids' meals in America--and the healthier (and equally tasty) alternatives that they should choose instead. And remember: Teaching your kids healthy eating habits is only half the equation--passing on healthy fitness habits is just as important. (So this list of The World's Fastest and Easiest Exercise Tips will help keep them, and you, fit and lean for life!) 

#5: A BIG 'NOT THAT!' at OLIVE GARDEN!
Olive Garden Fettuccine Alfredo meal
800 calories
48 g fat (30 g saturated)
810 mg sodium
SATURATED FAT EQUIVALENT: 1.5 full jars of Nutella!

I don’t know who this guy Alfredo is, but I’d like to give him a piece of my mind. This sauce is made with oil, butter, cream, and cheese. It’s always going to be rich, but the saturated fat here is just out of control. The American Heart Association recommends that we don't consume more than 7 percent of our total calories from saturated fat, but this sauce has four times that. It’s true that most kids don’t have to worry about heart attacks, but they do have to worry about obesity. About a third of the calories on this plate are from saturated fat. Another third come from carbohydrates. That leaves very little room for anything even remotely nutritionally redeeming. 

This Instead!
Cheese Ravioli
300 calories
8 g fat (4 g saturated)
440 mg sodium 

This meal still provides the rich flavor of cheese, but it serves it in a reasonable portion size. The secret here, and you should always look for this when you’re eating Italian, is that it’s served in a low-fat, highly nutritious tomato-based sauce. Try to steer your child away from anything made in a white sauce.

Bonus tip: Something else to keep in mind: One way to cut hundreds of calories from your kids' diets is to watch the sugary drinks. Start with the beverages on this list of The Absolutely Worst Drinks in America. (Some of them have more than a day's worth of calories, fat and sugar!) 

#4: A BIG 'NOT THAT!' at APPLEBEES!
Applebee’s Grilled Cheese with French fries  
1,020 calories
54 g fat (17 g saturated)
2,170 mg sodium
CALORIE EQUIVALENT: 400 Cheddar Goldfish Crackers (that’s 1.3 full bags!)

Here’s the crazy part: You can make a grilled cheese sandwich in your own house—using real cheese and toasting it with real butter—and still manage to slide in at about 300 calories. This one has 620 calories, and the fries account for another 400. 

Eat This Instead! 
Hot Dog with Applesauce
300 calories
13 g fat (4 g saturated)
860 mg sodium 

A hot dog is no nutritional ideal, but as long as it’s not a big stadium brat, it does have the advantage of being relatively low in calories. And kids love them. Swap out the fries for something truly nutritious, like vegetables or applesauce.  

Bonus tip: Want to know how many calories you should be eating in a given day? Multiply your ideal body weight by 11. For more of the latest nutrition and health secrets to help you live better right away, follow me here on Twitter. 

#3: A BIG 'NOT THAT!' at OUTBACK STEAKHOUSE!
Outback Steakhouse Kookaburra Chicken Fingers meal with Aussie Fries  
1,030 calories
60 g fat (21 g saturated)
2,052 mg sodium
FAT EQUIVALENT: 12 Frosted Chocolate Fudge Pop-Tarts!

Beige food? Never a good choice. If this is what they’re eating down under, we’re better off staying up here. And here’s something else we don’t talk about enough with kids’ foods: sodium. This meal has almost as much as your child should eat in an entire day. That’s dangerous for two reasons: 1) It puts a strain on a child’s cardiovascular system; and 2) It reinforces a taste preference for sodium-loaded foods, so they’ll have a hard time ever breaking free from the salt shaker. 

Bonus tip: For more examples of sodium-stuffed foods to avoid, check out this truly horrifying list of the 30 Saltiest Foods in America!    

Eat This Instead! 
Joey Sirloin with Fresh Seasonal Veggies
435 calories
28.5 g fat (15 g saturated)
631 mg sodium

If we can get kids eating real food earlier in life, they’ll be primed for staying fit and healthy well into old age. Despite what some people might think about eating red meat, sirloin steak is immensely nutritious. It’s lean, loaded with protein, and rich in vitamins and minerals. 

#2: A BIG 'NOT THAT!' at DENNY'S!
Denny’s Slap Shot Sliders (2) meal with Finish Line Fries
1,070 calories
53 g fat (16 g saturated, 2 g trans)
1,180 mg sodium
CALORIE EQUIVALENT: 505 Jujubes (that’s just over 2 full boxes!)

This meal is an assault to children’s health and the world of sports. It uses sports terminology to sell food that turns kids into little sumo wrestlers. Again, there’s more than 1,000 calories in this meal. A 10-year-old kid should be eating only about 1,600 to 1,800 calories over the course of an entire day.

Eat This Instead!
Spaghetti, Set, Go! with Apple Dunkers and Caramel Dip
390 calories
7 g fat (2 g saturated)
325 mg sodium

Again, you’ve got the red marinara sauce, which is very good. You’ve also got slices of apple with caramel dip. This is something we’re seeing on more and more restaurant menus. Kids like it because it has the same finger-food appeal as french fries, and parents like it because it won’t make their kids look like lumpy sacks of potatoes.

Bonus tip: Here's  another sneaky source of kid calories: Wayward snacking. Is your child snacking smart? See the good—and bad—chips and dips choices on our list of the Best and Worst Chips and Dips.

#1: THE BIGGEST 'NOT THAT!' at FRIENDLY'S!
Friendly’s Mac & Cheese Quesadilla meal with Friendly Frank, Shirley Temple and Friend-z Peanut Butter Cup  
2,270 calories
109 g fat (45 g saturated)
3,320 sodium
CALORIE EQUIVALENT: 45 Glazed Munchkins from Dunkin Donuts!

Friendly? Ha! This restaurant deserves the Phoniest Name of the Decade Award. This meal has an entire day’s worth of calories for a full-grown adult. Plus it has more saturated fat or sodium than you should ever see at one table. Part of the problem here is the pile-on policy: The entrée plus the side plus the drink plus the dessert. All of that comes with the meal. And dessert? Since when did dessert stop being extra? This is just dangerous food that gets a boost from a bad policy. 

Eat This Instead!
Grilled Cheese With Mandarin Oranges, 1% Milk, and a Double Shot Cone
800 calories
34 g fat (19 g saturated)
1,150 mg sodium

Now, here’s what’s crazy: The same sandwich that had more than 600 calories at Applebee’s—the grilled cheese—has only 290 calories at Friendly’s. That’s good, but it still comes with that obligatory dessert, which keeps this meal in the caloric danger zone. At 270 calories, The Double Shot Cone is the best you can do, but if you tell your server to scrap dessert altogether, your child suddenly has a reasonable 530-calorie entree

 I was shocked when I read in Health Day News that,  Black cancer patients in the United States are up to two times more likely to die prematurely from CANCER than patients of other races. The biggest disappointment was that a disparity linked to factors that include patients, doctors and hospitals, a new review from the University of Michigan shows.

Racial disparities exist for nearly all types of common cancers, but are largest for cancers that benefit most from treatment. This suggests that blacks are less likely to receive lifesaving treatments, according to researchers at the University of Michigan (U-M) Comprehensive Cancer Center.

They noted that five-year survival rates varied by 10 percent between blacks and whites with colorectal cancer and by 25 percent among patients with uterine cancer. Both types of cancers can be cured with surgery and medical treatments, but tend to be fatal if patients don't receive these treatments.

The researchers said three factors appear to play a role in these disparities: black patients are often diagnosed with more advanced cancer and are more likely to have other underlying health problems; black patients are less likely to be advised about cancer screenings and less likely to receive surgery or chemotherapy; and hospitals that mostly treat black patients tend to have fewer resources and offer lower quality care.

"Black cancer patients don't fare as well as whites. Their cancers are diagnosed at a later stage, the care they receive is often not as good -- or they get no care at all. Black patients may trust their doctors less, they may be unable to pay and the hospitals that serve more black patients tend to have fewer resources," study author Dr. Arden Morris, an associate professor of surgery at the U-M Medical School and chief of general surgery at the VA Ann Arbor Healthcare System, said in a U-M news release.

"This is a complex problem and it won't be easy to solve," she added.

Morris and colleagues recommended a number of policy changes, including expansion of public insurance systems to make cancer care more affordable for patients and changes to pay-for-performance programs for hospitals that meet certain standards.

"Programs that reward better quality with more money need to take into account what that does to hospitals that already have far fewer resources. Perhaps pay-for-performance could take into account where a hospital is starting from and could be considered as pay-for-improvement," Morris said.

The study appears in the July issue of the Journal of the American College of Surgeons.

This was a very interesting article and I think that these healthcare desparities should be addressed. Race or class should not be a factor in a person's healthcare!

Chris Brown has been forgiven by Jermaine Jackson and a slew of other celebrities and artists alike after breaking down during his Michael Jackson tribute performance. Chris Brown is still the hot topic of discussion three days after the BET Awards and it seems like he has finally made amends with the public also. If you haven't heard by now, Chris Brown performed one of the most stunning Michael Jackson tributes to date Sunday (June 27th). However, Chris Brown couldn't finish the performance and struggled through Michael Jackson's emotionally charged hit "Man In The Mirror". Brown broke down in tears during the most emotional moment of his career.

 Chris Brown's career has taken a nose dive since his incident with Rihanna last year and despite public apologies and numerous interviews, he has been a media target ever since. Jermaine Jackson, brother of the legendary Michael Jackson, was amazed at Brown's performance.  "It was very emotional for me... It was just a spectacular moment...He (Brown) deserves to perform because it's healing for him. How can he learn from his mistakes if you don't give him the chance? He needs that. I support him a thousand per cent; I'm not supporting what he did because it was wrong, but, at the same time, we have to give him a chance."

As much as I despise an "ABUSER" I have to say that I agree with Jermaine Jackson. As a mother of both a daughter, and a son. I can't can't imagine either side. Being the mother of the abused, or the abuser. Either way I know that there is no reason to ever to be physically agressive to any person. Man or Woman! When a situation does happen where someone is abused I do think that at some point you have to forgive in order to move on. Why is this so hard for us to do with Chris Brown? A young famous, talented son of an abuser (his father) and also son of the abused (his Mother)?

It's amazing to me how a guy in his prime who actually can be "rehabilitated" is thrown to the wolves and career is diminished right in  front of our eyes.  While others like Charlie Sheen, Mel Gipson, Larry King, & Wesley Snipes remain to be the industry's most sought after talent and HIGHEST PAID in their trades..There is something very wrong with this picture and I hope someone knocks some sense into our society real quick. ; ) Stay FAB

I know I've been out of the loop for a while, but I'm back and ready to blog! Things have been crazy on my end and finding balance is always a struggle, but I am committed to writing new peices every week. I appreciate all of your emails and text, and most of all your support of iluvmariah.com Please continue to send me topics, comments or concerns.

By: The Fabulous Mariah HuQ

Ok I just got some great news! My baby cousin who you see here..Little Miss Carrington Elan just landed a great new modeling contract with Baby Einstein and Bright Stars. While I think this is fabulous news and wouldn't expect anything less from this little  baby Diva, others are not so enthusiastic about baby's in the entertainment biz..

This news sparked an interesting conversation between her mother and I, about the Child Modeling Industry. She told me how most people automatically assume she is a stage mother simply because she is supportive of her child's talent. You have to admit that being able to work a camera with your smile at the tender age of one or two is somewhat remarkable. I know, I know every parent thinks that their kid is America's most talented or smartest kid. But, on the other hand some kids just have either the "it" factor or an extraordinary look that just screams commercial! Either way I think it's worth a shot. Let the agencies be the judge.

The main thing is you not going overboard and becoming an obsessed "Stage Mom" and  keeping your kid focused on whats important, helping them keep their priorities in order and most of all teaching them that beauty is only skin deep. The entertainment business can be a very shrewd business and you want to make sure you develop your childs image of themselves before you  allow any agency or media to define them. It's important for them to know that they can be anything they want to be with the right amount of dedication, determination and development.  So, if you still think your little angel is a rising star here are a few things to remember when looking at agencies.

• Never pay an agency..If they want your kid they should be paying you not other way around. You may have to shellout some cash for some photos or a comp card but always shop around for the most cost effective rates..
• Go with a known agency that is reputable, and has great results. Ask questions about the child stars and corporations they have worked with etc..

• Rejection. When kids go on "go-sees" or auditions, there can be a lot of very direct rejection. Not tall enough, too big, crooked nose, etc. You should know before you subject your child to the type of rejection that agencies and clients often dish out, whether or not your kid is cut for that. Ask yourself if your child's self esteem will still be in place if someone says they are not good enough?
• Time. Presupposing your child really does have "it," the next question would be are you willing to help him/her balance the time it will take to embark on a career, against the time it takes to be successful at school? Also consider that being a stage or model mom is very demanding on your time as well. If you have more than one child, this could really become an issue.
• Values. We've all seen kids in the public eye that have made some hairy decisions. There are a lot of influences in the world of entertainment and fashion, some that you might not agree with. Is your child headstrong enough to resist negative influences? Do you think she has the maturity to remember who she really is if she were to suddenly made a lot of money or became somewhat famous?
• Rewards. If your child does land a great role be sure to remember it was his or her talent or look that landed the gig and the check that she/he earns should go into a college or savings fund. Yes your drive, support and dedication helped so you should definitely pay yourself a 15% agent fee out the money and don't forget to write-off gas and mileage on your taxes.

Good luck to you and your little stars! Landing a huge role is always Fabulousity at its Best..

All year long I have been complaining that "I need a Vacation." Balancing work, family, my house and my social life seems to be over-whelming at times.  For a while it seemed as if a vacation was a mere fantasy. Then my husband and I were FINALLY able to coordinate our schedules and take off to Panama City, Fl with the kids for a few days.

I have to say that we actually had a great time. We stayed at a friends Beach home and enjoyed the weather and community. It was a great vacation b/c it was only a few hours from Atlanta, the weather was beautiful,(there was no oil) ;)  there were a ton of activities from boating to shopping : ) and most of all it was very very cost effective. Some of the things you can do to get a Fab & Frugal Vacation are:

• Choose a destination that is in driving distance
• Travel with a group to divide the cost
• Search for places that are welcoming tourist by offering specials
• Pack lunches while you are there
• Have a family game night ( stay in order pizza and enjoy the view)
• Don't forget about unadvertised "free" attractions like local Parks.

Hope you take your much needed vacation and remember it's not about how much you spend but How much time you spend enjoying life while on vacation!

By: The Fabulous Mariah HuQ

Gabby Sidibie is one of the most beautiful people I have ever seen. She may not be what America defines as beautiful, but for me her confidence, smile and attitude makes her amazing.. As much as I love Gabourey I must admit, that I too question whether her current weight is healthy or not.

Over the past few weeks the media has unleashed a vicious attack on her about her weight and the most recent and outlandish outburst was by Howard Stern saying " Gabourey is enormous and will never work again." As a young black woman gabby is unlike most of hollywood, she is confounding the status quo, but to me she is alot like what we see in the Black community. Young black, smart and beautiful but noticeably overweight. So, my question is should we be concerned? Does a person being overweight automatically mean they are unhealthy?

  Well according to the (NAAFA) {Yes its a real group} It's the National Association to Advance fat Acceptance, being overweight doesn't necessarily mean unhealthy nor does thin equal healthy. This is definitely true, but as a former medical sales rep, selling into the cardiovascular marketplace I can tell you that there are a plethora of risk associated with many diseases.  Whether it's Diabetes, Heart disease or high cholesterol being Overweight ususally is at the top of the risk-list. Any doctor will tell you that you almost double your risk for health complications just by being over weight. So, with that being said I think that we should be concerned. Especially, when we notice that obesity is starting at a younger age throughout many communites. As a minority Gabby should be evenmore concerned as well any other black females because of the following Facts:

• African American women have higher rates of obesity than women of other races
• Black people were 50% less likely to engage in exercise than White people in 2007
• People that are overweight are more likely to suffer from high blood pressure and other risk factors of heart disease (which is the #1 leading cause of death for African American women).
• Discussions of selection aside, people in better health are more likely to get married (there is a ton of research to back this up)
• Your weight is an indicator of your general health
• Black women are more likely to be considered overweight and obese (and yes, these are very different from thick)
• Black women are less likely to get married than women of other races (yes, yes I know, we’ve been beaten over the head with this all year)

Collectively we need to lose weight.  I’m not saying try to become a size 2, I’m saying be healthy. If you’re already fit, great.  Now go out and help your mom, your sister or your best friend get in shape too.  Losing weight and eating healthy are not easy, but they are definitely feasible.  With some motivation, discipline and support, we can do it.

This post is not about bashing “big girls” or hurting their self esteem. I too struggle with weight, and find myself constantly working to stay fit.  This post is a plea for us to stop encouraging each other  to stay large. There is a difference in being "thick" and "overweight"!  I get why we say “big girls rule” and other affirmations.  And I think it’s great that we encourage people to feel good about themselves no matter the size, but we have got to stop making excuses for our size and realize being big can have even BIGGER CONSEQUENCES!

By :The Fabulous Mariah HuQ

I stumbled across a survey on the web the other day. The survey asked men should women carry condoms or whether it was the male’s responsibility. While 71% of female readers felt it was their responsibility to bring a condom, I was amazed at the answers some men were giving. Many men considered a woman to be promiscuous or slutty if she carried condoms around. One guy said, A single woman who has a stash in her goody drawer at home is somewhat of a turnoff. I appreciate women who make it known that they will not have sex without condoms, but they should look to the man to be prepared should they decide to be intimate.” 

It appeared that a lesser amount of men actually thought a woman was being safe by protecting herself and her partner by packing the condoms.  Some men even went so far to suggest that a woman carrying a condom is emasculating…WTH!

As a woman, we all know that men will come up with any excuse to get it in without a life vest, including the “Dang, I forgot my condom, or I ran out,” excuse. So, if she really wants to have sex and you are “out”  everyone wins, and the party keeps on rolling.  If we are in an age where disease runs rampant and you should be questioning your partners stats and bill of health before doin’ the do, why would promiscuity be the first thing that comes to mind? Is promiscuity a question because she comes prepared, meaning she could have sex at the drop of a dime? Do good girls not carry condoms? It seems to me that we are back in that old double standard era again.  If a woman carries a condom she is a whore and if a man does he is being smart?

  Regardless of who brings the protection, it should be brought and used. There are so many diseases that are prominent in todays's society that you shouldn't really question who brought the protection. A better question is do you prefer to be protected or infected????

Bridie Clark, author of The Overnight Socialite, shared some tips on how to dress like you've got a trust fund and a ton of money to spare. Wouldn't that be nice? Now have to be honest  and say I don't know Birdie, but whoever she is  She's right on the money with her tips. The "socialite look" is just a matter of mastering a few basic rules. 

1. Figure out what works and stick with it. Anchor your wardrobe with clean lines, good fabrics, classic tailoring. Develop a signature look...even a uniform. Avoid trends. The look you're striving for is fresh but timeless, and most trends have an expiration date.
   
2. Before you make a purchase, try to calculate Cost-Per-Wear. A Burberry trench that you'll wear every spring for the rest of your life could be worth a splurge. Likewise you'll always want to wear a great watch, "everyday" jewelry with just the right amount of bling, a simple clutch for evening, a tote that's comfortable but chic. And a little black dress -- you'll wear it all the time. ((Ok she is on the money here every diva needs at least one Black Nicole Miller or A.B.S. dress (both are classy and cost-effective) and a nice Jimmy Choo clutch. My favorite jewelry David Yurman))
   
3. Buy at the right time. Stores need to turn over their inventory to make room for new arrivals, so keep your eye out for sales. There's definitely a right time (usually January) and a wrong time (November) to buy that shearling coat. 
   
4. Buy more than one. Say you find the perfect pair of jeans. The right length, the right wash, the right silhouette from every angle. This is a good moment to splurge by doubling down on an extra pair (and if they're really that fabulous, two). Same goes for all your basics -- white tailored shirts, black ballet flats, socks. This way you'll have a fresh set to rotate in when the original starts to show wear and tear.((This is true too. I wear my AG jeans sooo much I have to buy 3 pair at a time))
   
5. Never compromise on fit. Who cares if it's cashmere -- if the sweater doesn't fit properly, donate it. Keep your wardrobe as streamlined as possible.. ((I agree, The clothes or the brand means nothing if they don't fit perfectly.. U must always have a nice taylored prescence, unless you are striving for a trendy baggy look))
6. Take care of what you have. Skip bleach -- it will hurt the fibers of your clothing after many washes. Instead, soak whites in hot water using detergent and a bleach alternative, like white vinegar. Be vigilant about separating colors. Your jeans and delicates should never see the inside of a dryer. Lastly, spot-clean items instead of always dry-cleaning -- it'll save you money, and save your clothes the chemical treatment. (( hmmmmm. I say work out a good weekly deal with your local dry cleaners for your favorite peices. lol))
   
7. Never pay retail. Why blow your budget at the mall when there are so many places to buy designer clothing at deep discounts? Sites like Gilt, eBay, and consignment shops are just some of the spots you'll find marked-down treasures that look like you bought them on Fifth Avenue. Somebody did. ( (I'm always for being frugally fabulous. lol))
   
8. Master a speedy daytime beauty routine. We all need to get out the door quickly sometimes. After your shower, massage a small amount of mousse into the roots of your hair, flip your head and use a flat brush to blowdry hair into straight, shiny panels. Smear on some tinted moisturizer with SPF, some mascara, and some lipgloss, and you're good to go.
   
9. To paraphrase Coco Chanel, remove one accessory before you walk out the door. Less is more. If you want to look effortlessly elegant, put quality ahead of quantity and keep your look simple. ((This is where we part ways. I say always do EXTRA, unless you are going to a conservative affair or an interview. I'd rather be overdressed than under-dressed. so grab 4 bracelets instead of one honey you are Fabulous! LOL))
   
10. Exercise clothing should be worn solely to exercise. OK, and back and forth to the gym. Socialites don't allow themselves to lapse into that comfy, sloppy look that can be so tempting on a Sunday morning..((Well I see her point, but I see nothing wrong with a nice form fitted Juicy Couture jogging suit if you have the body for it.))

So the bottomline is what I have always told you.. Looking Fabulous isn't about how much money you have. It's about being confident with what you do have and YOU making it more Fabulous.. Real Divas know We make the brands, the brands don't make us!!

Have you "had sex"? Are you sure?

And what exactly constitutes "sex"? Does oral sex count in your definition?

Well, a new study finds that Americans disagree about what "had sex" really means. In fact, many people seem to be clinging to a very narrow definition of the term.

The survey of 486 people shows that 95 percent of respondents consider penile-vaginal intercourse (PVI) as having "had sex." (Obviously, most of the respondents were heterosexual.)

However, this rate dropped to 89 percent if there is no ejaculation. (*Eyeroll* Someone please explain this ridiculous reasoning to me.)

Other results?

• About 30 percent of respondents did not consider oral contact with a partner's genitals (OG) as having had sex.
• Close to 20 percent did not consider anal sex as having had sex.

According to these results, it looks like many people may be underestimating the number of sexual partners they've actually had! For some reason I get the hunch that most of these underestimators are women. (LOL)

The bottom-line is in order to practice safe sex, we have to be real about what sex is. How can we protect ourselves and each other from sexually transmitted diseases with such narrow definitions of "sex"? This just seems dangerous to me.

By :The Fabulous Mariah HuQ

Hello, Spanx swimsuits! Where have you been all the summers of my life? I'm always in the mood to be slim and trim.. Or at least look that way. (lol)

A friend just pointed these figure-fixing bathing suits out to me, and I about fell to my knees in gratitude. These slimming swimsuits (sizes 4 to 16) employ Spanx power with breathable mesh compression liners that are said to "flatten the tummy, smooth the back, and slim love handles." Finally, the possibility of a swimsuit season without tears, tantrums, or woeful dismay...

Not so fast.

Spanx one-piece swimsuits run $178-$198 each, and their mix and match or coordinating tankini and bikini two pieces run $78-$128 for each piece. Gulp!

So I guess you truly do get what you pay for.  For a fab body in the summer time, no love handles, and a flatter tummy I say the Spanx Swimsuits are Fabulously worth it!

By: The Fabulous Mariah HuQ

Little League football, basketball, baseball and soccer are all great sports. Most kids play at least one of them at some point in their lives. Maybe not on the actual field, but at least on a video game. lol We as parents push our children to be active, and we should. Not only is sports a good source of exercise, but it teaches them discipline and how to be a great team player. Now, truth is if they really excel they can land a college scholarship or even go pro one day right? 

It is quite evident that we as a society are fanatics when it comes to pushing our kids to excel on the field. The disappointment is that we don't have the same level of excitement and energy when it comes to academics.  When is the last time your child participated in a spelling bee, an academic groups like science or math clubs? Now I'm not saying that every parent is guilty of this, because for the most part we all want our children to excel. I just think that we should devote the same amount of dedication if not more to them actually landing an academic "scholar"ship over a free ride for basketball.  

Many will say what does it matter, as long as they go to college and their tuition is waved? I say oh it matters a great deal. When our kids get a "free ride" to college for sports many times it's just that a free ride. The expectation is for them to pass their classes but to be passionate and dedicated to the sport that landed them there in the first place. While a true scholarship recipient, is expected to be a young savvy sophisticate that excels in academics. I realized that our society promotes athletics over academics in the way Rhodes Scholar Myron Rolle was treated by the media.

"How do you feel about abandoning your team" was one of the disgraceful questions Rolle was asked... Really? Him leaving Florida State football team to go to Oxford as the recipient of one of the world’s most prestigious post graduate honors "The Rhodes Scholarship" is looked at as him abandoning his team? If so, this says a lot about our expectations of today's youth, which are supposed to be tomorrow’s leaders. I think Rolle's dedication both on and especially off the field is amazing...

His desire to be a Neurosurgeon and still play professional football is a perfect example of how we should groom our kids. We should develop them to be multi-talented and always have a backup plan. We should teach them that a mind is a terrible thing to waste, so they should always strive for intellectual excellence. After reading the stories on Rolle and watching his interviews I was truly touched. What's evident to me is  that this young man has a good head on his shoulders, strong foundation and solid support system.  I automatically knew that he definitely has the kind of parents that groomed him to be a Scholar first and an Athlete second!

His story was a great reminder that educating and empowering our kids is the most Fabulous thing we can ever do. That’s the only form of fabulousity that you don't have to be frugal with...lol

By" The Fabulous Mariah HuQ

Ok ladies I had a special request to discuss whether or not new Mommies should consider Plastic surgery to re-sculpture the post-preggo body. Well this was an easy topic for me. LOL I say yes.. If you are healthy and can afford it why not? I'm all for people looking and feeling great!

Based on the research I've done many women are opting in for what is now referred to as the "Mom Job"this plastic surgery trio includes a tummy tuck, a breast lift and liposuction. Costing anywhere between $10,000-$30,000, the mom job offers women who have just given birth,  a chance to do another overhaul on their bodies. Talk about Quick but expensive fix.. LOL Now just as anything else that sounds to good to be true there is always a catch.. Well the catch here is there are many risk associated with plastic surgery. Some of the things I would think of if I decided to go under the knife to have a much needed breast lift are:

1. Have you done all you can do to change your physical appearance? (In my case yes I'm over support bras they are uncomfortable and most of the best ones make you look like a grandma!)
   
2. Cost.. Plastic Surgery is the equivalent of buying a car.. It is definitely a big ticket item. You have to ask yourself what is your physical appearance worth to you in terms of dollars?
3. Goals.Ok here is the issue I have with many people that have cosmetic surgery, especially liposuction.. They have unrealistic goals and don't realize they still need to change their eating habits and exercise in order to keep the excess fat off. Liposuction in particular, has a reputation for not lasting a long time; the remaining fat cells settle into the space that was worked on and, before you know it, the love handles are back. WOW (you spent 10k on a surgery to gain the weight right back!)
4. Risk..Call it Plastic, cosmetic or reconstructive but the fact still remains that it is surgery and like any surgery many risk are involved. Some of those are infection, bleeding, blood clots, tissue death, delayed healing, risk of permanent disfigurement, paralysis, a host of anasthesia risk, and last but not least DEATH. (silence)
   
5. Rewards are my favorite.. The most obvious is a more appealing physical appearance, a boost in self esteem and confidence and an overall better quality of life. These may not seem like a lot of rewards, but keep in mind that all the things mentioned here have a snowball effect in every aspect of your life from work to the bedroom.

No one is born perfect; in fact, perfection doesn't exist. But if you feel you can get as close to perfection as possible through plastic surgery, be well informed before deciding to go under the knife. The rewards can be great, but definite risks are involved. You just have to figure out if your rewards outweight your risk.. Either way Love yourself and know that we all have flaws and there is no quick fix. The most pertinent and permanent fix is you loving you regardless.  Now thats the kind of Fabulous makeover that every mommy needs, and it's free!

Smooches

By : The Fabulous Mariah HuQ 

I love to spend money what woman doesn't? Shoe shopping, fine dining and purses are my weaknesses, I'll admit, but not so bad where I need to be put on a darn budget! So yesterday after looking thru our bank statements  (dam the person that came up with online banking!) The hubby begins to tell me how much I had spent in one week. He hesistated of course, after seeing the I know you didn't look on my face, but he did not bite his tongue..

His words were stern but very clear. "I'm not saying you can't shop or have a good time but I am saying you don't have to buy everything you like, know what your going to spend when you go in the store and only take that amount of money in" is what he said.

I was a little taken back, but I understood his point. I guess I just felt like I don't tell him when and what to buy, sooooo why is he telling me? But I quickly snapped out of that childish attitude and looked at the big picture. He was right! People are loosing their houses, jobs and other valuables at the expense of endless spending and bad budgeting and we've worked far to hard to travel down that road.

After looking through the statements, I was mad with myself.  I was astonished at amount of money that I had frivously spent over the course of a week. The shocker was most of it was on eating out! The irony is, I COOK EVERYDAY! So needless to say, I am now on a budget.  After doing the calculations I realize that the more we spend now, the less we will have later. That is enough to make me not only come up with a budget, but also keep the following things in mind:

1. Only Pay Cash... If you have to charge it you can't afford it! Credit cards= debt and debt is the enemy.. Don't even use your checkcard! Cash is better because it reminds you just how much money you are spending and forces you to rethink the purchase.. It also limits your spending. Like I was told only take what you can afford to spend in the store...

2. Extra $$$ doesn't always mean "extra spending money"- Is it just me or do we as a society feel the need to spend more when we make a little more? This doesn't have to be the case. Just because you have extra this month, doesn't mean you have to reward yourself with extra un-needed things.. Allow that overflow to remain in your account, and accumulate interest..

3. Needs vs wants.. Ok this is a hard one for me, b/c in my mind I do need a new Tracey Reese bag, or a new pair of AG jeans, but in reality I don't! What I need is to get rid of the stuff I don't use or wear before I add to the clutter that is dominating all of my closets! Only you can say what you need. There are some things that we absolutely must have, and those are the things that we can't negotiate on. More than likely, the other stuff can probably wait.

4. Set limits! This is essential in budgeting.. When I say limits I mean know exactly how many times you will treat yourself to a fine meal this week and  know exactly what you want to spend for the week. Whether it's dinning out or grocery shopping you should have a number in mind and stick to it. This is very important and what I am working on as we speak.  Last week I ate out 11 times, and paid for 10 of them. That's too much, even if it is business related. You have to set limits.. So my new limit is lunch twice a wk with friends or cleints and dinner twice as well. If I need to have more meetings I will meet in a book store, office or coffee shop.

5. Communicate with your partner! Communicating your financial goals with your partner is imperative! You must be on the same page and have the same goals.. If he is saving for a new home and you are spending for a new look, you are not on the same page and doomed for financial failure. Talking about money can be very taboo. If you avoid having the discussions about finance you are sure to go in different directions.  Contrary to popular belief, money is always an issue. Its too much of a commodity and nessecity not to be.

6. Set realistic goals! Ok this is the final but probably the most important tip of all. Despite of what the songs say no one has "money to blow.." Just ask Oprah.. Even she has a budget..Most of the wealthiest people in this country have money because they had budgets, investments and control. Many of them also proabably inherited sizable trust funds as well. lol Now, we have to decide if we want to be apart of the haves or the have not's.. One thing I know for sure is trying to keep up with the Joneses will definitely, reserve you a re-occuring role in the circle of Have Not's! So be real with yourself about what you can and cannot spend, because there is nothing Fabulous about being broke!

By: The Fabulous Mariah HuQ

The garage door opens, and the kids scream "DADDY DADDY" They run down the stairs and jump into his arms as soon as he steps a foot in the door. I walk down and say "hey babe what's up?" and give him a slight peck on the lips. That's typically how the day starts or finishes as my beau returns from work. As an Emergency Room physician his hours vary and sometimes he returns early morning, evening, or night.

Well today I tried something a bit different. When the garage door opened and the kids zipped into his arms, I raced down the stairs as well, with the same excitement, screaming "Daddy Daddy". After laughing at my child-like behavior, he immediately whisked me in his arms, smacked me on the backside and gave me a passionate kiss. His face was filled with joy and his enthusiasm was off the charts. Then, he preceded to ask me about my day, and to tell me about his. He told me that he would take care of the kids and I should go relax.. WOW? Ok really? Just from being super excited about his arrival? 

Yes! Never underestimate the influence your greeting has on your significant other.. The greeting is a vital component to creating an atmosphere in which our beloved spouse will look forward to seeing our faces, and sharing with us at the end of each and every work day.

As wives, what we want is for our husbands to enjoy coming home and love being home. So, in order to do that we must go an extra mile . Even if it means running to his arms when he hits the door. Doing that makes him excited to "run" home and most of all "stay" home. A few other things to keep in mind are the following.

1. Look Fabulous when he arrives. Ok ladies I know it's impossible to look like a beauty queen on a daily basis, but putting on a little makeup, combing your hair (yes take the rollers out!), and slipping on a cute little ensemble won't take more than 15 minutes right? LOL If you have a problem with this, you should ask yourself what would a mistress do or wear to greet your husband????? I figured that would change your mind! ;)

2. Give him all of you for a moment! I know this is a really hard one, especially when you have kids, but you have to do this! Even if it's for 30 minutes or an hour.  Make sure you quit all other projects to greet him and welcome him home. After the welcome just listen and give him your undivided attention. You may not even be in the mood to hear about his job or sports etc.... but listening to him helps to enhance your relationship and strengthen your trust.

3. A good meal goes along way! You may not be able to cook on a daily basis but at least have a sandwich ready. Something is better than nothing, and we all know that men really value a great Meal!

4. Clear the household clutter as much as possible. I'm not saying you have to do a spring cleaning, but I am saying to  clear out the clutter and straighten up a bit.  Nobody wants to come home to a messy house. Being in a clean enviroment allows you to unwind and relax.

Now I'm no relationship expert, but I do know that we as women have the  power to create homes that our husbands love and want to run to - not away from.

By: The fabulous Mariah

Being a housewife is the hardest job I've ever done. As much as I love my kids I have to say that they can drive me up the wall, with all the whinning, fighting and constant demands.. But, being home to see them grow and progress is definitely worth it. After walking away from Corporate America and a six-figure salary I often feel like clocking in was much easier! This has to be the most challenging job in the world. How do you pay a Doctor/nurse/teacher/cook/judge/referee/chauffeur/stylist/maid and friend? Truth is we all know this job is priceless, but since society places a price tag on everything else, inquiring minds would like to know what a housewife is worth...

Well Just like any Job, you must define the role, before determining the salary. You must know the key objectives and most of all distinguish job duties.  So, What is a housewife, and what does she do? Websters may have a definition and I am willing to bet it's far from the images that the media portrays, but that's another topic. lol Okay so after doing research I found that I was on point with many of the formentioned roles.. In fact we are supposed to get paid for each one.. LOL WOW this is about to be interesting!  Let me layout the details fo you:

"If you're a stay-at-home wife and mother, you're worth a whopping $125,900 a year! That's because your mate would have to pay $2,325 a week to hire people to perform all the jobs you do, according to U.S. government statistics. A busy mom provides her family with the services of a child care worker, cook, dishwasher, chauffeur, laundry worker, maid and more.Here's what it would cost to hire someone to do these jobs for a week, according to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics Employment and Earnings report:
1. CHILD CARE WORKER - $182
That's the amount working parents fork out for a fulltime child care worker to look after and feed their children.
2. COOK - $238                                                                             Professional cooks earn an average of $238 a week. But you could be worth even more if you whip up dishes that could be served at fine restaurants.
3. DISHWASHER AND KITCHEN CLEANER - $225
That's what an expert makes working full-time in the catering and food preparation business.
4. LAUNDRY WORKER - $199
You're worth $199 a week to wash, dry and fold your family's clothes and linens.
5. CHAUFFEUR - $362
Professional drivers pocket $362 a week. But you may be worth more since you're at your family's beck and call 24 hours a day.
6. MAID - $182
Although this is what the average maid earns, it's not a lot to do all the dirty work around the house.
7. RECREATION COORDINATOR - $303
You should be paid $303 a week to plan and execute your children's playtime schedule.
8. TUTOR - $228
You tear your hair out helping your children master the "new math" for free; while a professional tutor rakes in $228 a week.
9. BOOKKEEPER/SECRETARY - $389
A clerical worker who balances the books, answers the phone and organizes schedules earns $389 a week.
Tally all those figures and you'll find you could be earning a cool $120,900 a year ($155,280 if you factor in a 3% inflation rate)."
This does not even factor in the spiritual training and mentoring that a mother will do that a hired hand would not. So how much is the love of a stay-at-home mother/wife worth to a family? PRICELESS

Okay so ladies after finding out what we are supposed to be getting paid, my question is who is supposed to pay us? LOL My kids don't work and if the hubby pays me, that's like me paying myself right? Looks like we are back, where we started. Working for free. Guess it all comes out of Love anyway. (smile)

Smooches

 By: The Fabulous Mariah HuQ

Ok, so there is not a woman alive who doesn't think of their weight.. Rather we want to lose or gain the bottom-line is Weight is a constant concern in our lives, and rightfully so. Yes it is okay to be heavy if that is what you are comfortable with, but it's not okay to be unhealthy.

What many don't realize or simply ignore is the pertinent fact that being "over weight" does increase your risk for health issues like Heart disease, Diabetes, Sleep Apnea etc.. So the bottomline is Get rid of the inner fat girl, she can cost you your life! I know those words can be harsh but Divas we have to get in shape so we can feel great, and live long healthy lives... Dying at the age of 55 from a clogged artery is not Fabulous therefore, it's not an option..  Soooo, here are a few things I want you to remember

1. Know your reason- Loosing weight is not just about looking great.It's more about being great and being healthy.. According to the American Heart Association by loosing even 5-10 pounds you can significantly reduce your risk for many life altering diseases like Cancer, Diabetes and Heart disease.. So come on Divas, let's make a pack to drop at least 5 UN fabulous pounds together....

2. Exercise is your friend – I know you hate exercise, and think running is for suckers, buuut weight will not move until you put your feet to the pavement.   Once you develop a routine and stick to it exercise actually becomes fun and your body starts to miss that adrenaline rush. I ususally, cut out a picture of Beyonce or Halle and stick it on the treadmill to get me fired up.. A picture of a size 4 jeans helps to. (LOL)  No, you don’t have to kill yourself and run 5 miles every day but starting slow and building up strong wins the race.  Diet alone won’t cut it and you need exercise to build a healthy foundation.  So, we WILL be working out 3-4 times a week…no matter how you grumble.  Exercise is best when you do what you love, not what someone tells  you to do.  So yes, we are trying dancing and running….hey maybe even a pole -dancing class or two (now this is gonna be fun)

3.Water is your  new BFF-Yes its tasteless, no its not fizzy or pretty, but its good for you.I know I know I hate water too but, I make myself drink it, because it flushes out toxins and helps beat that pesky water weight you continuously struggle with.   Yes, you really do need those 64 ounces a day and 100 is even better. If the taste is to bland for you, and you need more flavor, do what i do and keep a box of Crystal light singles in your purse and slip one in each bottle or glass of H2O, you drink. Just keep in mind Soda rots your teeth, has a ton of calories, acid and other un-Fabulous things in it..So, when you think about it water really is your friend!  Plus it makes for pretty skin, nails, and hair and helps us increase our FABULOUSITY! Need I say more?

4. Plan ahead or plan to fail - you know you need to eat 5-6 times a day.  I won’t let you eat 2 times and mess with your metabolism.  You know where you are going and can pack a snack.  Don’t go to town while ordering out just because everyone else is.  Do yourself a favor and get an accountability partner, it will make things alot easier.   You and your partner, can not only work out together but you can plan meals and  goals together and hold one another accountable.

5. Everyone needs a Push.. Getting a push down your road to weightloss is fine rather it's slimfast, Jenny craig, or diet pills, but always consult with your doctor first.. In my opinion physicians are the best diet coaches because they can get you started down the right path and help you along the way. Don't be afraid to ask your doctor about a diet meal plan or appetite suppressant, they will gladly let you know what option is best for you.. If you don't have one check out our pals over at Shape medical (see above link) weightloss and tell Dr Mckenna Mariah sent you, for your Fab discount : )

Smooches Divas

  By: Mariah HuQ

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By Mariah HuQ

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The make-up line e.l.f.(eyes-lips-face) has been bought out by Nordstrom and will be re-packaged with the Nordstrom name on it. They are getting rid of the entire make up in ELF packaging. They are selling everything for $1. You do have to pay shipping. They have everything – powder, mascara, lipstick, a mineral line (100% natural), brushes & cases, nail polish, lotions, you name it, it’s there. The website is: http://www.eyeslipsface.com/shop.asp                                     

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Thanks CoCo for the tip! Smoochies

So, according to word on the street, Tiger is up to mistress number 9!!  I mean they have only been married a little over 5 years.  That’s a whole lot of cheating if you ask me. 

I don’t agree with all the mess in the media saying Elin is at fault for all of Tiger’s cheating.  However, I do say she did have a hand in the situation and is not blameless. As a wife I can say you know when something is wrong in your relationship, and whether you address it or turn the other cheek, can determine the outcome.

Communicate Kids

In a relationship things can get stale.  Its hard to maintain the desire and flame you once felt for a person.  I mean we are human.  The thing I blame both parties for is an apparent lack of communication. 

Tiger knew he wasn’t getting whatever it was he needed sexually and probably emotionally from his wife.  I mean no one has a mistress for extended periods of time without forming some emotional connection.   The problem is that he probably never spoke up to his wife to let her know what he felt was missing.   No, he didn’t have to be mean or harsh about it but there are artful ways to suggest things to your partner.   I am not sure that this occurred here.

Elin is also at fault because we women can feel a difference when we don’t have all of our partner anymore.  Either she turned a blind eye or she never tried to talk to her partner to find the root of the problem.

Truth Hurts

The truth hurts but sometimes we need to face it.  Deep down we are all a little freaky, ( I think the media has influence or requires us to be so- another post for another day) and yes we are all emotional and need that human connection.   To me 9 women screams a lack of communication or a lack of fire felt in the marriage.   Ignoring the problem, as you can see, only made it worse.

Sex is Just Sex?

Some men are screaming that sex is sext, and Tiger was just getting his rocks off.  I don’t agree,  he formed an emotional connection with these women and was dating them in spans of over a year.  To me, he had little quasi-relationships with all of these women.   So, sex can’t just really be sex.  There is an underlying feeling Tiger wanted to achieve and sought it out in other women. 

 Maybe Tiger shouldn’t have married her in the first place.

Do you feel Elin is at fault for Tiger’s cheating?

If somoene is cheating is it because they are missing something in their relationship?

Is Sex, Just Sex?